How Does a Wedding Work?

Donna L. Taylor

The Initial Planning

Once a couple is officially engaged, for many, a non-stop planning mode begins. A basic wedding consists of the couple intending to wed, witnesses, and the officiant who is to conduct the ceremony. Though this basic proceeding will allow one to be formally wed, many do not follow this procedure. For many, in particular the bride to be, a wedding day is something that has been mentally planned for years prior. Commonly, a proposal will lead to the planning of a wedding of some size that includes attendants, a number of invited guests, a reception and a honeymoon. The levels of formality may differ, but the planning of the event generally includes these elements.


Once the planning begins, the couple must immediately decide on the size of the wedding to take place. This is generally determined by the budget allowance, as wedding costs can quickly get out of hand and exceed the available resources. The couple must determine their attire and that of their attendants, the rings to be exchanged, flowers, wedding favors, wedding location, the music for the ceremony, the location of the reception that follows, and where to honeymoon. There also is a rehearsal dinner and any number of smaller events leading to the big day which the couple must decide upon. Attendants generally hold events for the couple, but they also are dictated by the level of formality, which begins with the size of the couple's budget.

The Event

The wedding day arrives. Once the day begins, the couple and all involved are able to participate in the impending ceremony. The day will have a number of stops and starts. But with careful planning, everyone can focus on the couple who has just wed and the proceedings of the day. Whether or not the event is elaborate or understated, the basic point is the joining of two people in matrimony. A wedding is generally a reflection of the style and personalities of the couple involved, so make it personal and unique to your tastes.