In middle school, you're surrounded by older kids as you enter the sixth grade. Peer pressure is at an all-time high and it may seem every girl has a boyfriend. If you feel like it's time to have your first boyfriend, learn how to get one. Although the dating rules of the sixth grade can seem like a jungle, when you follow the right steps, getting a boyfriend in sixth grade may just happen.
Be friendly. In order to have a friend, you must be a friend. This doesn't mean that you can't be shy. It's possible to be shy and have a lot of friends. Simply start by asking someone a simple question on an easy topic. Ask him about his favorite movie, what he likes to eat or what class he likes the best. Asking him about the transition to middle school or if he's interested in sports are cool questions, too.
Get to know the friends of your crush. It's much easier to start hanging out with the guy of your dreams if you are friendly with those he enjoys hanging out with. It's important for him to be accepted right now. He feels a lot of the insecurities you are feeling. Knowing that his friends will approve of his new girlfriend is a huge plus and takes a load off of his mind.
Give him a genuine compliment. Don't go overboard here. It will be obvious and insincere to start telling him worshipful things about himself. If he gets a haircut, take notice with a compliment. If he is wearing a really cool jacket, let him know that you like it, too. It will build his confidence, and it will make him even more comfortable with you. A little flirting goes a long way.
Be yourself. You want him to like you for who you are. When he is with you, resist all temptation to try to impress him. That will simply look silly. Act how you normally act when you are with friends. He'll be attracted to the true you.
Ask his friends if he likes you when you have built up a fun friendship with your crush. You will probably get a yes. If his friends say no, they could be lying or shy. Don't let it be the end of the friendship. Chances are, they will say yes.
Tell your crush that you like him if he doesn't say it to you first. He will probably then ask if you want to be his girlfriend.
Eat lunch together. This can be a really fun part of having a boyfriend in the sixth grade--you'll definitely have a lunch time partner.
Robin Raven was first published in 1998. She has contributed to newspapers, magazines and online publications, including "The Malibu Times," "Act'ionLine" for Friends of Animals, USA Today Travel Tips and the official Melissa Gilbert website. Raven specializes in travel, health, beauty, culture, vegan nutrition, joyful living, arts and entertainment. She holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts in writing.
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