When it comes to dating a younger man, there is always the temptation to lie about your age. The problem is that once you have led him to believe you are younger, how do you reveal the truth? Lying about your age may be harmless when it comes to strangers, but in an intimate relationship it is best to be honest. After all, trust is crucial for a lasting partnership, and it is never too late to do the right thing. Telling your boyfriend the truth will be a huge weight off your shoulders. There are steps you can take to lessen the blow.
Tell your boyfriend you need to talk, but don't alarm him. Assure him that it is nothing to worry about. Agree to a convenient time for both of you. Choose a comfortable place, quiet enough for you to chat without being disturbed or distracted.
Greet your boyfriend with a warm hug and get straight to the point. Start by saying something to show how much you love him, such as "You are the kindest/most honest/most caring person I know, so I am sorry that I have lied to you." Apologize for being dishonest about your age and tell him how old you actually are.
Give your boyfriend the chance to respond to your revelation. Be prepared for him to be angry or upset about the lie. If you have led him to believe that you are 10 years younger than you actually are, this is likely to upset him more than shaving a couple of years off. Explain why you lied about your age and assure him that your intention was never to upset him.
C. Giles is a writer with an MA (Hons) in English literature and a post-graduate diploma in law. Her work has been published in several publications, both online and offline, including "The Herald," "The Big Issue" and "Daily Record."
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