How to Get Ready for a Date if You're a Teenage Girl

by Nikki Shewmaker

Dating plays a large part in a young woman’s social life -- especially in high school. While often fraught with drama, dating in high school can help a young woman deal with the pitfalls and benefits of romantic relationships later in life. So, now that you’ve been asked out and the plans have been made, the next crucial step is getting ready.

Relax: Dates can be nerve-wracking. Whether it’s someone you’ve had your heart set on for a while or someone who has just caught your attention, it’s normal to want to make a great impression. However, keep in mind that if he asked you out -- or accepted your invitation -- he is anticipating the outing just as much as you are. So, take a deep breath and do something to soothe those nerves. Whether it’s relaxing in a bubble bath, stretching, or even meditating -- do what makes you feel re-energized and excited about your outing.

Glam it Up: Now comes the fun part, physically getting ready. Chances are your date has seen you at school and is well aware of how you look. There is no reason to go overboard on the makeup -- he’s expecting you, not someone from a magazine ad. That being said, there’s no reason you shouldn’t add some flair to your normal look. Are you usually a hair-in-a-ponytail kind of girl? Let your hair down. Are you usually a lip gloss only kind of girl? Add some allure while playing up your eyes. Whatever you choose to do, let the person he asked out shine through.

Pick the Perfect Outfit: Your outfit makes a statement about who you are. Pick something that fits well, that you’re comfortable in and something that is appropriate to the activity you have chosen for your date. If you’re going to a fancy dinner, a flirty dress or a nice pair of pants is appropriate. If you’re going mini-golfing, stick with something casual while still dressing to impress. If you aren’t comfortable, you will be worried more about your clothing than enjoying your date.

Be confident yet able to laugh at yourself: Confidence is the most important thing a girl can have. When you realize how great you are and want to show it off to the world, everything else melts away. If anything goes wrong on your date, smile and laugh off whatever gaffe has occurred. Your date will like your confidence and easygoing nature and you can focus on being in the moment and enjoying time with your guy.

Set Boundaries: Dating and romance are two of life's greatest things, but keep in mind that you need to set boundaries for yourself and your date. Discuss with your parents the need for a curfew, where you'll be going and be frank with them in discussing the physical limits the date will have. Sean Covey, author of " The Six Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens" suggests "intelligent dating" in which you focus on doing what is right for you and not doing things just because others are doing them.


  • Remember that it’s only a date and it’s supposed to be fun. Teenage dating coach Lisa Jander compares dating to driving a car. The first time you step behind the wheel is nerve-wracking, but with practice and persistence, you'll become more comfortable and competent. Present the best you possible and the outing will be enjoyable and successful.

About the Author

Based in Chicago, Nikki Shewmaker has been writing on women's issues and relationships since 2012. Her work has been published in "Inside Irving Park" magazine, "College News" magazine, and Shewmaker received her B.A. in communication from the University of Washington.

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