Marriage is a lifetime commitment that many people enter into with a specific set of hopes, expectations and dreams. Although lots of people are happy with their spouses for many years, others come to regret their decision and end up in divorce court within a few years of getting married. There are many benefits to marriage, as well as downsides that may make it too much of a sacrifice for some people.
Pro: A Dedicated Lover
One of the most obvious benefits of marriage is the fact that you are entering into a commitment to live with and love the person of your choice for the rest of your life. Throughout all the challenges that life offers, a dedicated lover will be there for you. In marriage, you do not have to face anything alone; you are considered a unit by family, friends and the law.
Con: Your Very Last Lover
One of the cons of marriage is that the person you marry is your last lover -- except, of course, in the case of infidelity or the death of your spouse. Committing to marriage means committing to one person for your entire life, which means that relationships with other people are out of the question. Although both men and women may see admirable qualities in other people, a relationship with another person is a violation of the marriage contract.
Pro: Financial Stability
Marriage tends to offer greater financial stability for both men and women. The combined assets make it a worthwhile investment, and two incomes make life easier for most people. Furthermore, the tax laws tend to favor those who are married.
Con: The In-Laws
Dealing with in-laws is a dreaded aspects of marriage for some people. Although some people have wonderful relationships with their spouse's family, others do not enjoy spending time with their in-laws. Whatever the case, in-laws are always going to be in the picture, so not having a good relationship with them will make a marriage difficult.
Pro: A Family
The opportunity to be part of a family is one of the most basic benefits marriage offers. Although single men and women can have a family, marriage offers the easiest way to start and maintain a family. Furthermore, two parents who are both involved in the life of a child mean a balanced upbringing for the child and less stress on either parent.
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Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.