How to Find Mature People to Chat With Online

by F.R.R. Mallory

The computer has transformed the way many people meet and form relationships. It is now possible to belong to an international community of people who share common interests or goals and to interact with them every day. However, it is equally possible to connect with immature people who use fake information to cultivate false relationships. Sorting out how and why people are communicating online is part of the learning curve of modern life. It is possible to find quality, mature people to chat with online.

Finding Mature People To Chat With Online

When you create an email account for online chat purposes, select a user name that is some portion of your name. Less mature users will often select cutesy names or otherwise try to completely obscure their identity.

Fill in the email profile with general information. Never provide detailed information such as street names, phone numbers, schools (if you aren't in college or older), place of employment, etc. It is generally OK to provide age (if over 21), gender, your state and interests.

Narrow your focus. The more that an online group shares a common interest, the more likely the maturity level may be higher.

Join a few groups and read the archives of the group. Read the current message exchanges and note how various people communicate. Often it is possible to instant message or email someone whose writing style seems mature and inquire about other groups that may be even better. Networking within groups is a good way to discover groups with good reputations for mature discussions.

Create a blog and add people that you know in real life as friends. Blog communities often have internal groups and interests allowing for access through those same shared interests. By reading the message traffic, it will become clear who is mature and who isn't. Block those whose message style doesn't meet your needs.

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Items you will need

  • An online name for chats


  • People who use cutesy names or who are very coy online may lack the maturity to form honest online friendships. Written communication doesn't offer the physical cues of face-to-face relationships, so note behaviors that indicate trust issues that would prevent mature friendships.


  • Some people are able to pretend to be what any other person thinks they want. Don't trust other people by sending them money unless you have met them in person.

About the Author

F.R.R. Mallory has been published since 1996, writing books, short stories, articles and essays. She has worked as an architect, restored cars, designed clothing, renovated homes and makes crafts. She is a graduate of the University of California at Berkeley with bachelor's degrees in psychology and English. Her fiction short story "Black Ice" recently won a National Space Society contest.

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