Affection is not always easy to show. Some people were not brought up to be affectionate, so affection can be more difficult for them to show to their spouses. While showing your husband how much you love him centers mostly around physical affection, displays of affection can be much more than physical. Affection is about showing a deep sense of caring for another person, or demonstrating an inside feeling in an outward way. With some time and patience, you can learn to be more affectionate with your husband.
Touch your husband often and with gentleness. These efforts do not have to be sexual in nature. In fact, they should be in addition to sexual touch. Find reasons to hug your man, touch his shoulder or sit closely to him to increase your affectionate exchanges.
Appreciate your husband for all of the small things he does. Value him and tell him that his opinions matter. Let him know how much you love him. Turn off the television, put down the cell phone and listen to him. Make him feel like he is the only thing that matters.
Perform small, loving actions for your husband. For example, if he likes coffee in the morning, set the timer so that it is ready when he wakes up. Think ahead and show that you are aware of his needs. This will show that you are in tune with him and care about what will make him happy.
Encourage fun between yourself and your husband. Jokes are a great way to relax and unwind. A secret joke shared between the two of you when the kids are screaming is a great way to ease tension.
Schedule a date night and stick to it. Set aside alone time every week and don't let anything take that time away from the two of you. Remember what it was like when you two were dating and try to recapture some of that old romance.
Surprise him with small gifts. They don't have to be expensive; a small toy that will make him smile, a letter or a creative effort would do. Any item that shows that you put thought and effort into making him smile will show your affection.
Lynda Lampert began writing professionally in 2000 with the publishing of her romance novel, "My Lady Elizabeth." Her work has also appeared in the "Pittsburgh Tribune Review." Lampert obtained an associate's degree in nursing from Mercyhurst College Northeast.
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