Engage your spouse in communication about the cheating. You may need a period of space to get your thoughts together, but at some point you need to have a direct and candid discussion with your spouse.

Talk with family and friends whom you know will not share your intimate details with anyone else. Often times, sharing what you've learned about your spouse's infidelity with others helps in the recovery process.

Engage yourself in counseling with a professional. Look in your area for counselors who specialize in marriage, infidelity and relationships. Ask those you trust for counselor referrals; you may be surprised to find out how many people around you have confronted cheating.

Go through all of the emotional steps you feel are necessary in order to pass through the difficult time. There's no set time for how long it should take you to get over something as shocking as cheating. Take your time during this process.

Commit yourself to working through the marriage. Explain to your spouse how you are feeling and that it will take time to work through all of your feelings. Patience is a must.