Does your relationship with your girlfriend sometimes resemble a hostage situation? It can be difficult to recognize and acknowledge an emotionally abusive situation. As men, it can also be a blow to our egos to realize we're being victimized by our girlfriend (or wife).
However, instances of emotional (and sometimes physical) abuse by women on men is common, even though it's not often discussed. This article will show you how to recognize some of the signs.
Realize that only YOU can recognize emotional abuse.
Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse isn't always immediately recognizable. Emotional abuse is behavior that is designed to control someone through fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion, manipulation, etc.
It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased.
For a brief list of characteristics describing a typical emotionally abusive relationship, go here: http://www.relationshipbreakup101.com/2009_08_01_archive.html (or see the link below).
If you find your realtionship described within, you need to take action.
Take refuge with friends and family, and consult the services of a mental health expert. If you don't have health insurance and can't afford much, many communities provide free or very low-priced services.
Decide with certainty whether the relationship can be salvaged, or whether you have to leave.
- Be careful of confronting your partner only to have your words twisted. Emotional manipulators are excellent at turning a confrontation into another opportunity to control you.
- Realize that you may not be able to resolve this situation without 3rd-party help, especially that of a mental health professional.