How to Find Someone's Relatives

by Julia Kitlinski-Hong
Finding your lost relatives is a search that is worth the time and patience.

Finding your lost relatives is a search that is worth the time and patience.

Families get separated for many reasons: divorce, disagreement, and adoption are common reasons that families lose touch with one another. Fortunately there are many services and websites that can help find lost love ones. Make sure to utilize free search methods before paying a membership fee for access to a private database on a search website.

Ask immediate family members for any information that they might know about the individual who you are searching for. Write down all these clues and keep them in a safe place where you can easily refer back to them throughout your search.

Search for phone numbers on a site like, which has a large database of listed numbers worldwide. You can search for an individual's number on this site by using different resources, such as the White Pages or official public records. Remember that not all telephone numbers are listed, since it is the personal choice of the individual whether or not to have an unlisted number.

Utilize search sites like, which has a wide database of records from across the U.S. based on residential and real estate records. The search itself is free, but if you want detailed information on a result that came up in your search in addition to the person's name and location, you would need to purchase the complete information on that individual.

Sign up with a website like Ameridex Information Systems, with which, for a small fee, you can have access to an extensive database of over 380 million names. Of those individuals, 300 million include a birth date that was extracted from public records. A phone number database is also available to members, which provides both residential and business listed numbers and is updated daily.

Register with a service like the International Soundex Reunion Registry, which is a nonprofit organization that reunites family members together if both parties give their mutual consent. If a match is not immediately found, your file will remain in the Reunion Registry until one comes up or you wish to take your information off the site. There is no cost for this service but you must mail in the registry form after downloading and printing it.


  • Be aware of scams when paying a website for their services. Ask for the total fee upfront so there are no hidden costs that could pop up later.

About the Author

Julia Kitlinski-Hong graduated from Emmanuel College in Boston, majoring in English. She is a freelance writer and blogger, and is currently writing as a social media editor for iTourNow, a travel media website. If she could be anywhere, she would be traveling abroad, processing everything through writing.

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