After the initial honeymoon phase of your marriage is over, it's natural for work, kids and daily routines to take priority over romance. However, it's important to spend quality time with your wife, no matter how long you have been married for or how many other commitments you have. A study on marriage from researchers at Stony Brook University published in 2012 in the journal "Social Psychological and Personality Science" found that romance is key to a long, loving marriage.
Do the Necessary Planning
Planning your romantic evening will allow you to make the necessary arrangements to ensure you have no distraction on your special night. If you have kids, book a babysitter or ask a relative to keep the kids overnight. Arrange your workload so that there's no danger you'll have to stay late at the office. Opt for an evening when you're both off work the next day, so you can relax and enjoy each other's company without worrying about a demanding work day ahead. Planning also builds anticipation, which can put the spark back into your romantic life, says psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith in the article "10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Magically Romantic," for "Psychology Today."
Take Her By Surprise
Your wife will be blown away if you're able to surprise her with a romantic evening. If you have the budget to whisk her off to a top class restaurant or a luxury hotel, great. If not, don't worry. Romance isn't about spending money. Turn up unexpectedly at your wife's place of work just as she is finishing for the evening and take her to see the latest movie featuring her favorite actor. Book a table at the restaurant where you had your first date. If you're spending your romantic evening at home, cook her favorite meal and set the table with candles and wine glasses. Greet her at the door with a glass of champagne and start your romantic evening by telling her you love her. Buy roses and create a trail of petals leading to the bedroom, suggests Goldsmith. Sometimes the most unexpected gestures, no matter how small, are the most romantic.
Romance doesn't have to be planned. If you have the house to yourselves, resist the temptation to slouch on the sofa in front of the television all evening. Switch the television and your cell phones off and put on some music. Grab your wife for a dance. Light candles in the bathroom, run a bath with soothing bath oil and relax in the tub together. Give your wife a massage -- she may just return the favor.
Give a Special Gift
However and wherever you decide to spend your romantic evening with your wife, make it extra special for her by presenting her with a special gift at an appropriate moment. Create a CD or playlist of meaningful songs, suggests the article "10 Ways to Surprise Your Spouse," for "The Nest." Choose your wife's favorite songs, or songs that remind you both of special times during your marriage or courtship, such as your first dance song from your wedding. Find a first edition of your wife's favorite book and pen a romantic message inside the cover.