Meeting someone new and going out on a first date can be romantic and exciting. While getting to know someone for the first time is fun, it can also give you the wrong kind of first-date jitters if you’re concerned that you just don’t know enough about him to trust him. Women are especially likely to want confirmation that a man is not a dangerous date. Luckily, with all of the resources on the internet, it’s easier than ever to find out. Do a quick background check to ease your anxiety so you can relax and have fun.
Get enough information about the guy to look him up. You should know his first and last name before you agree to a date in the first place, but knowing his birthday can help you separate him from all of the other John Smiths so you don’t mistake him for an ex-con. Ask him what his sign is, and then probe a little further.
Check the National Sex Offender Registry on websites like Family Watchdog. Whether or not a guy is a sex offender is an important thing to know before you put yourself in a potentially vulnerable position by being alone with him. Family Watchdog gathers publically available information about sex offenders in your area and provides a free online search option.
Check your local police station, court system and prison system online. You may be able to call and get information, or search the internet for records of court dates and incarceration.
Order a background check on Intelius or other similar websites if you want more comprehensive information. Conducting this kind of background check might cost money, but it gives you vital information about your potential suitor’s public record.
Trust your intuition. Even if you don’t find anything on the guy’s record, if your gut tells you not to go on the date because you’re afraid of what might happen, you should listen. You are never under any obligation to go out with a guy, with or without evidence of a shady background.
- Dating is all about taking chances, so if a guy asks you out and you feel good about it, set a date for a public place where you feel comfortable getting to know him, or invite him to a large gathering of friends. Meet him there instead of having him pick you up. Dating in a public place allows you to size him up without fear of danger.
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