You just met a great guy, but he lives far away. Wondering how to wrap him around your finger and keep him that way can wear on your sanity. Use technology to your advantage and be yourself to stay on his mind. Long-distance relationships can be just as rewarding as local ones.
The intoxicating feelings of a new relationship are hard to match. Learning new things about each other and absorbing the positive qualities in a guy engulf your mind each time you talk. In the article, “Long Distance Relationships,” researchers at the University of Maryland state that effective communication is the key to success in long-distance relationships. Give him plenty of talk time. Before you know it, he won't be able to go a day without hearing your voice.
You can go online and see what almost everyone you know is doing at any given time. Regardless of the distance between you, social networking can bring a sense of familiarity to the relationship when keeping up with each other's daily activities. Sharing pictures, videos or voice clips online can give him a taste of your lifestyle. Piecing together parts of your life and personality will be a challenge to him. The more he gets to know you, the more he will have the urge to talk to you. Christie Hartman, Ph.D., a dating expert, says that if a guy wants to talk to you frequently, he is hooked. Checking out what you are up to and being able to hear your voice will make him want more.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a good hand-written letter. A letter can convey a greater sense of your personality than a phone call or text message can. Receiving a note in the mail will spark his interest in your individuality and creativity. Letting him know that you are thinking of him is a great way to stay on his radar. There is a profound difference between physical distance and mental distance. If you shower him with love notes and small gifts, he will feel close to you.
Plan a Trip
Don't wait for him: take the initiative to move the relationship to the next level. Make arrangements to meet up after a couple of months of talking. The anticipation of your arrival will have him thinking of you constantly. Showing him that you are interested and taking action toward pursuing a serious long-distance relationship will demonstrate how interested you are in him.
Christa Orion is a psychologist in training with focus on family and relationship health. She has years of experience working with individuals going through domestic issues.
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