Anyone can have a wedding ceremony without obtaining a marriage license, but you cannot legally marry in the United States without a license. Some people, such as gay couples who are not able to legally marry, hold ceremonies, but U.S. law will not recognize the marriage.
Wedding vs. Marriage
A wedding is a ceremony typically held to publicly recognize a marriage. You do not need to have a wedding ceremony to be legally married, and you do not have to be legally married to have a wedding ceremony. If you do not obtain a marriage license, you can still have a ceremony, but it will not have any bearing on your legal status as a couple.
In the United States, all states require a marriage license. Requirements such as age, waiting period and blood testing vary from state to state, but if you do not obtain this license prior to your wedding, the marriage will not be legal.
Legal wedding ceremonies must use officiants who have the authority under their state to perform ceremonies. In most states, the person performing the ceremony will sign the marriage license following the wedding to finalize the legal marriage process. If you do not obtain a license, you can choose anyone to conduct a ceremony, but the marriage will not be legal.
A commitment ceremony usually takes place between a gay or lesbian couple unable to legally marry in the United States. These ceremonies are often similar to traditional weddings; however, the couples are not able to obtain marriage licenses.
Even if you are married abroad, you will need some type of license to validate the marriage, especially if you want it to be legal in the United States. Most international destinations have their own licensing requirements.
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