Dating, flirting and romance are all a natural part of your teen years, but that doesn't mean they'll come easily to everybody. Finding the right kind of person to date can be challenging, especially if you're shy by nature. Finding a boyfriend often comes down to just getting out and doing things, in places where guys can find you, but social media sites provide a Plan B.
Start with the boys in your class. If you find someone interesting, strike up a casual conversation about a class assignment, recent school activity, or simply a difficult part of the lesson. If you cannot muster the courage, smile across at him, letting him know that you are interested. If he reciprocates your feeling, he might take the first step towards chatting with you.
Attend your school's next sporting event. Since guys are very fond of sports, your chances of finding someone are much higher. In addition, you will develop an understanding of the game, and that will be extremely helpful in future conversations with other boys.
Overcome your shyness by participating in extracurricular activities, such as a sports team and youth groups. The more you step out of your shell, the wider your interaction will be with guys -- and some may even be boyfriend material.
Step outside of your boundaries and look for a boyfriend beyond your school. Attend various social functions and community events, sporting activities, dances, fund-raisers, and plays at other schools.
Do not discount events happening in your neighborhood such as fairs and church functions to find teenage guys. You never may know what nice guy is hanging around waiting to be discovered.
Don't overlook your male co-workers as a source for potential boyfriend material. Working at the same place helps to break the ice and creates a common bond between two people. This way, casual conversations may lead to friendship and possibly more.
Spread the word among your friends and relatives that you are looking for a boyfriend, and maybe they could introduce you to some friends or acquaintances of theirs.
Become more active on social networking websites such as Facebook and Snapchat if you find yourself totally incapable of making contact with a boy in person. These types of social networks allow ample opportunity for you to widen your friend circle. If you like a certain guy at school or work, you could approach him in this manner, too. Casual chatting may eventually lead to you to hang out with each other.
- When you do meet the right guy, don't go overboard in your attention towards him. You need to be a challenge to him. While this is not to be construed as giving him the cold shoulder, you should not end up spending all your waking time around him either.
- When dealing with relationships as a result of online communication, avoid arranging meetings alone with boys that you do not know personally. When in doubt, arrange a double date with a friend for your security. Additionally, avoid revealing personal information such as your home address. While providing your phone number may be a suitable option, it should not be given out until you have verified that the boy you are indeed interested is who he says he is.