Figuring out if your girlfriend is cheating on you can be an emotional roller coaster. Trying to read signs and analyze everything she does is exhausting. If you notice these signs in your relationship, plan carefully how you confront her. If you are wrong, it may be tricky to win back her trust. Women are often complicated to read and it may be that she is attempting to win attention from you by seemingly cheating. The best way to handle the situation is to look for these signs, go with your instincts and approach the issue as an adult.
She stops paying attention to you and becomes easily distracted during conversations. She stops asking about your day and doesn't offer any information about hers. She will stop nagging you and complaining about things that used to bother her.
She comes home with a new haircut, which she would have always asked your opinion about in the past. She has new outfits and is dressing up more often. New perfume may be introduced and new underwear and bras appear.
Lack of Intimacy
Sex has become a thing of the past. If you attempt to get intimate, she will turn you down, become defensive and angry. She will turn away from you if you try to kiss her or avoid physical contact. She may shrug your arm off her shoulders at the movie, or let go of you hand quickly if you try to hold hers.
She Has a New Friend
There is a new guy in her life that she talks about frequently. This person may be a co-worker or a friend of a friend. If you ask about him, she will become defensive and offer little to no information.
Change in Schedule
Her schedule changes all of a sudden. She begins going to the gym before or after work, or her job duties have increased and she must stay late or go in early. She can't meet you for lunch anymore for reasons related to work.
She has told you one thing and you have heard something else from a friend. This happens most often when you are around her friends and bring up an event she has told you about that hasn't actually happened. This is a simple way to find out if she is doing what she says she is.
Paranoid on Computer and Phone
If you walk in the room, she quickly closes computer windows. She won't check her email in front of you anymore. She may close the door to the office at home for privacy. If she gets a call on her cell, she will go in another room to talk.
She has new interests to fill time that isn't spent at work. She might take up a new hobby or sport but doesn't want you to be involved. She wants to begin learning a new skill with a group of friends, but won't include you.
Scarce with Family and Friends
You notice she is spending less and less time with family and friends. This is often caused by feelings of guilt about what she is doing to you and having to lie to more people.
Showers at Different Times
She comes home from work and showers right away when she used to shower in the morning. She comes home from the gym and has already showered or showers at odd times like when she comes back from shopping or going out to eat.
Mary Johnson-Gerard began writing professionally in 1975 and expanded to writing online in 2003. She has been published on the Frenzyness Divorce Blog and on Neumind International Pte Ltd. Her book "When Divorce Hurts Too Long—Ouch" was published in 2009. Johnson-Gerard holds a doctorate in educational psychology from the University of Missouri.