Learning to truly forgive and let go of past resentments can be extremely difficult. You may not realize, however, that you are hurting yourself. By carrying old anger and wounds into your current life you are causing unnecessary anxiety. This can lead to physical effects, such as headaches, stomachaches, and even high blood pressure. Let go of the past before it's too late. Get rid of resentments and learn to forgive. You deserve peace and happiness. You only get one life. Live it to the fullest.
Write a list of how your life will improve when you forgive and let go of resentments. Write things such as you will no longer feel angry and stressed when you see a certain relative. Look at this list when you need the strength to go forward with your decision to let the past go.
Practice compassion and empathy. Think about why the person may have hurt you. Try to understand the other person's life. Perhaps the person who hurt you was emotionally abused and never learned how to have a healthy relationship. To forgive and let go of resentments, it helps to see the other side.
Let the person know that you forgive him. If he will not speak to you, write your feelings in a journal. You can also write a letter to the person stating that you forgive him. You don't have to send the letter. You just need to get your feelings out and express that you are forgiving and letting old resentments go.
Seek therapy. You may find that you are unable to forgive and let go. A therapist can help you work through your issues. You can also speak to a church or spiritual leader who may help you deal with this.
- Mayo Clinic: Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness
- "The Herald of Christian Science"; Letting Go of Resentment; Elise Moore; October 2000
- "Psychology Today"; Find Freedom in Forgiveness; Mark Sichel; September 21, 2010
- "Psychology Today"; The Power of Releasing Resentments: A Holiday and New Year's Gift to Yourself and Others; Judith Orloff, December 28, 2010
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