Some people find weddings intimidating. They wonder what to wear, what kind of gift to purchase a couple and, most of all, what words to use when congratulating the newlyweds. Wedding wishes should be both personal and sincere if they’re to ring true. Taking some time to reflect on the couple and one’s relationship with them should bring to mind enough memories and warm sentiments to write wonderful wishes for the couple, either for a speech or for a wedding card.
Giving a Speech
Think of your relationship with the bride and groom and write down your thoughts or type them up. EasyWeddingToasts.com suggests thinking about the following questions to conjure up some genuine best wishes for a wedding: How and when did you meet the couple? Do you remember when the couple met or your reaction to the news that they were dating? How did the groom propose to the bride? How did she react? What are the first words that come to mind when you think of the bride or groom? What would you like the couple to experience together in the future?
Look at the thoughts you brainstormed about the couple and your relationship to them for inspiration for forming your speech. Do humorous anecdotes come to mind? Does a situation stick out in which the bride or groom surprised you with the way they cared for the other partner? Use these thoughts to form a touching speech about the couple.
Begin by introducing yourself with your name and relationship to the bride or groom. If you are comfortable with humor, capture attention by telling a joke. If not, read a quote from a book or movie that you think fits the newlyweds. If you are unable to find a quote, launch into the speech.
Be brief at the end of your toast or speech. If you provided a quote from a book or movie at the beginning of your speech, you could end with another quote from the same work. If not, say something simple like “You two are a beautiful couple, and I wish you all the best.”
Writing in a Card
Address the couple by their names. If the bride has taken her husband’s last name, she might enjoy reading a card addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Smith. If she has not or you are not sure, simply use first names.
If you have a long history with the couple, recount some meaningful memories--road trips, office parties, dinners, dances--and express your excitement or hope about the couple’s future together.
Compliment something that you enjoyed about the wedding or something that you admire about the couple. Perhaps you have noticed their gift for compromising and you think this will serve them well in their marriage.
Sign the card legibly and with your full name. Years from now, when the couple looks back on their wedding memorabilia, it should be easy for them to read signatures and remember those who were thoughtful enough to wish them well.
Do not mention any past relationships, no matter how well you think your remarks will be received. Weddings are about a couple making a new start together.