How to Tell When a Guy Is Flirting With You

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The dating scene can be tough, and it's not always easy to tell if a guy is flirting with you. The last thing you want to do is misinterpret friendly signals for something more. At the same time, you don't want to miss the chance to date with a hot guy because you're oblivious to his flirting. If a guy doesn't come right out and ask you out, if could be because he's shy or unsure of how you would respond. By being aware of the most common signs of flirting, you can make the most of any opportunities that come your way.

It's All in the Eyes

Eye contact reveals a lot about a person's intentions. If a guy is flirting with you, he will look at you a lot. You might be aware of him watching you from across a crowded room or from the other side of the bar. When you catch his eye, he will hold your gaze for a couple of seconds longer than normal to let you know he is interested. When a guy chats with you, watch for him making a wide triangle with his eyes as they travel across your face, beginning with one of your eyes. moving to the other eye then spanning the entire length of your neck. If a guy keeps looking at your mouth while you talk, he's imagining what it would be like to kiss you, says sex expert Tracey Cox.

Flirtatious Body Language

Several body language signals can indicate a guy is getting flirty with you. Watch for a guy copying your body language, suggests Cox, such as by crossing his leg when you cross yours. If someone likes you and wants you to like him, he may imitate your body language to signify common ground. Looking at his hands and feet can also clue you in to a guy's intentions. If he finds you attractive, he might point his hands and feet in your direction.

You're His Number One

When a guy is flirting with you, you will be the main focus of his attention. Regardless of what else is going on around you, he will make you feel like the most important person in the room. He will listen intently to what you are saying and appear interested in getting to know you. He is likely to ask you a lot of questions about your life to help him make a deeper connection with you. Regular compliments are another sign of flirting, says Colleen Crawford in the article "Signs That a Man Is Flirting With You" from Health Guidance. If a guy tells you how great your hair looks, or how amazing you look in that dress, he's looking for more than friendship.

Up Close And Personal

A guy may get touchy feely with you while he is flirting. Some people are naturally more tactile than others, but if his touches tend to be of a sensual nature or linger a little longer than you would expect, you can be fairly sure that he is trying to be more than friends. He may touch your arm during conversation, brush his leg against yours under the table or "accidentally" touch your foot with his on more than one occasion. He may lean in closer to you than is necessary when talking or whisper in your ear when he tells you something personal.