There may be a number of reasons why you're keeping your invitation list short. Perhaps you just don't have the money to pay for a large soiree or there are people in your circle whom you don't think will enjoy being around certain others. Whatever you reason, it's your party and the invitation list is up to you, but be mindful that if the word gets out, those you didn't invite might feel slighted.

The easy way to keep a lid on who is invited to a party is to send formal, written invitations. Even if someone who's not invited learns about the party, it's reasonable to assume that a very formal party must be limited. They might think you're limiting the number of people you invite for reasons related to cost. Refrain from discussing your party around people you aren't going to invite or else you'll come across as being very insensitive.

If someone who isn't invited to your party confronts you, be firm. Tell her it's your party and you selected guests whom you believe would enjoy the party and others in attendance. Avoid hurting her feelings. Instead, tell her that you had to narrow the guest list and it wasn't possible to invite everybody you know for a number of reasons.