Use an optimistic approach when providing emotional support. Things may seem difficult when your boyfriend is unemployed, but pointing that crystal-clear fact out to him probably won't be seen as encouraging. Instead, taking a positive approach can give both you and your boyfriend a buffer against depression, physical illness and problems coping with stress. Being optimistic isn't the same as being unrealistic. Instead, be realistic, but point out positive aspects of your lives and potentially positive outcomes to your situation such as moving to a larger metropolitan area.

Make a point of spending time with your boyfriend that isn't focused on his unemployment. Seeking a new job when you're unemployed can often feel like a full-time job without pay. It makes sense that after a full day of applications, resumes and phone calls, both you and your boyfriend could use some "normal" downtime. This can be accomplished without expense by cooking dinner together, watching a favorite television show or going for a long walk outside. When both of you start your day, let your boyfriend know that you have a plan to relax with him later in the day, giving him something he can keep in mind while working on finding a job.

Avoid "invading" your boyfriend's space during the day while he looks for a job. You can provide nonverbal support by giving your boyfriend respect and space as he works on creating a future. If you're employed, this is already accomplished by you being at your job as he searches for work. If, however, you have a lot of free time, consider finding an activity that can keep you busy and offers your boyfriend fewer distractions. Use this time to connect with your friends or family to continue to keep your emotions lifted.

Apply skills of active listening when communicating with your boyfriend. Active listening is a technique used by psychotherapists that can allow both parties to be heard and understood. According to the University of Colorado website in an article on active listening, the technique is accomplished by listening intently, clarifying what is being said and refraining from judgment. These steps help to facilitate trust and openness and can allow your boyfriend to feel more comfortable expressing his feelings about his unemployment or about other relevant topics. It's important not to attempt to provide your boyfriend with a solution when utilizing active listening. Instead, provide an objective listening ear.