The average marrying age for women has reached an all-time high of 26.5 years, according to Erin Migdol in a 2013 article published in The Huffington Post. This shift from previous generations also includes a decline in divorce rates, reports Lauren Cahn and June Carbone with Alternet, an independent online media outlet; women who marry later in life are presumed to be more financially stable and less likely to get divorced than those who get married at a younger age.
Higher Education and Career Focus
A commonly reported reason for women choosing to delay marriage is so that they can focus on obtaining higher education and reaching career objectives. This is not to say that these women have no interest in being married - many prefer to establish financial security before settling down with a partner. Author Melanie Notkin with Psychology Today warns against viewing the "career woman" as selfish and cold hearted for choosing to build a legacy through her occupation. Notkin says that negative stereotypes about unmarried career-focused women are hurtful and unsubstantiated.
Personal Freedom
Some women choose to delay marriage so they can travel, focus on personal interests or postpone having children. The responsibilities that come with having a spouse and raising a family may deter women who would rather have more experiences before making such serious commitments. Women who choose to marry later in life may use the time of personal freedom to work on emotional or psychological healing from past hurts - trying to resolve certain issues before committing to marriage.
Lack of Relationship Stability
Women who delay marriage may find it difficult to find a stable, reliable partner. Notkin notes that the "career woman myth" fails to consider that some women who've chosen to focus on their careers actually desire to raise a family, but won't do so without a stable relationship. Social and personality psychologist Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D., says in Psychology Today that modern women often struggle to find suitable mates because society expects women to be successful leaders both at work and at home, a benchmark that challenges their ability to find cooperative romantic partners.
Cohabitation
Marriage is delayed when women decide to live with their partner before or without getting married. Couples choose to live together for a number of reasons, according to clinical psychologist and author Meg Jay in a 2012 New York Times article: to pool resources, to tentatively test marriage compatibility or with the presumption that cohabitation is a step toward marriage. There is much controversy as to whether or not cohabitation is harmful to marriage; however, numerous reports find that an increasing number of couples are choosing to live together and delay marriage.
Related Articles
10 Reasons Women Stay Single
Pros and Cons of Marrying
The Norwegian Dating Culture
The Pros & Cons of Dating Vs. Marriage
What if Your Girlfriend Doesn't Want to ...
Roles of a Married Couple
Differences Between Modern & ...
What Is Nurturing in a Relationship?
What Effects Can Stress Have on a ...
Husband & Wife Relationships in the ...
How Long to Date Before Moving in?
Problems With Teen Marriage
Reasons Why Someone Might End Up ...
Why Do Married Men Have Affairs?
Sociological Types of Divorce
What Does It Mean When Men Bring Up ...
How to Get Married Without the Wedding
What Are the Advantages of Older Men ...
Can a Straight Couple Have a Commitment ...
Can You Have a Wedding Without ...
References
- Alternet.org: 5 Reasons Americans Are Delaying Marriage
- Population Reference Bureau: U.S. Women Delay Marriage and Children for College
- USA Today: Young Adults Delaying Marriage
- Psychology Today: The "Career Woman" Myth
- Psychology Today: Why Women Can't Find a Good Man
- The New York Times: Opinion: The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage
Writer Bio
K. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom. Nola enjoys writing about health, wellness and spirituality. She is a member of the Atlanta Writer's Club.
Photo Credits
George Doyle/Stockbyte/Getty Images