How to Deal With Distrust in a Marriage

by Christa Orion

Distrust in a marriage can be toxic to emotional growth and overall marital happiness. With effort, it is possible to find the strength to approach your spouse with your thoughts and then take the necessary steps to establish a trusting relationship. Open yourself up and take action toward the betterment of your marriage.


Letting fears linger and stress build up can ignite a problematic marriage.

Allowing negative thoughts to build up is unhealthy for you and your relationship. Discuss feelings of distrust in your marriage. Talk to your spouse. These feelings can have strong negative effects on your mind, possibly causing you to act out and say things that you normally wouldn't. Communicating your fears to your partner can open the door to reassurance and peace.

Taking action

Work with your spouse to keep your marriage strong.

Take some initiative to build trust in your relationship. Whether you are rebuilding a betrayed trust or establishing it for the first time, this can be a trying task. On, Rabbi Dov Heller, a marriage and family therapist, recommends that you work on improving your communication skills, remain positive and don't allow issues to go unresolved. Stay active and involved with your spouse. Do nice things for him. Working as a team rather than constantly battling will solidify the bond that is necessary for a great marriage.


Freeing your marriage from distrust will be a new beginning.

Sometimes you may just not know what to do. You are trying to be open about patching up a damaged marriage, but it is not coming together. Marriage counseling helps couples understand what's at the root of their distrust and helps them resolve it. Don't be too proud to get professional help. Trust issues can be dealt with gracefully. Therapy can provide a neutral ground for getting thoughts off your chest and bringing closure to unresolved marital stresses.


Finding trust again can bring joy and peace back to marriage.

In the article "Trust Issues" on, trust is defined as a "fundamental human experience" that is related to human happiness. You owe it to yourself to make the effort toward reconstructing trust rather than living in constant worry. It is only natural to be pensive when considering whether you can truly trust someone, especially if it involves a prior betrayal. Allowing yourself to accept that people make mistakes and working toward moving forward rather than dwelling in the past will help save your marriage.

About the Author

Christa Orion is a psychologist in training with focus on family and relationship health. She has years of experience working with individuals going through domestic issues.

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