How to Get Over Rejection From Women

by Nina Edwards

Knowing how to get over rejection from women can be the key to moving on to a happier and healthier relationship. If you are like most of us, though, you are likely to hear a lot of “no” before getting to “yes.” You should have a strategy for dealing with rejection before it starts to really take a toll on your confidence and self-esteem.

Accept It

The best thing that you can do to get over rejection from women is to accept it quickly. In “When Thinking Hurts: Attachment, Rumination, and Post Relationship Adjustment,” a 2007 study published in the journal “Personal Relationships,” Colleen Saffrey and Marion Ehrenberg point out that dwelling on rejection prolongs the adjustment period. Instead of dwelling on the rejection itself, seek meaning in your experience whether it was a relationship or an attempt at starting one. Learn from it without dwelling on the negative experience of rejection itself. It happens to everyone, so accept that reality and move on to the next relationship.

Reclaim Your Independence

Rejection is an avenue to your next relationship so take the opportunity to be independent again. Remember that independence does not necessarily mean being alone. Instead, it means doing things that you would normally do as a single person including spending time with the people close to you. In “How to Deal with Rejection” on Professional Counselling, Elly Prior discourages isolating yourself. Spend time with family and friends, the people who love and support you. Consider taking a vacation with friends. If you are lucky, you may even meet someone new while traveling.

You Are Valuable

Remember that you are valuable. In “Ten Tips to Mend a Broken Heart” on PsychCentral, Therese Borchard suggests that you make a list of your strengths. The person who rejected you may have missed them but there is no reason that you should. The list will be longer and more meaningful if you list not only your strengths, but also your accomplishments. Have you come in first in a sporting contest lately? Have you lost weight? Did you recently get a promotion? When you list your strengths and accomplishments you will see all of the things that she missed when she rejected you.

Work It Out -- Literally

Exercise is a good way to improve your mood and help you to attract the next woman. In “Depression and Anxiety: Exercise Eases Symptoms” on the website, the staff point to the emotional and psychological benefits of exercise. They say that when you get active, it can increase your confidence, take your mind off worrying, make you interested in socializing more and improve your ability to cope. So go to the gym, play basketball or go for a run. The more you exercise, the better you will feel.

About the Author

Nina Edwards holds a doctorate in clinical psychology and has been writing about families and relationships since 2000. She has numerous publications in scholarly journals and often writes for relationship websites as well. Edwards is a university lecturer and practicing psychologist in New York City.

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