How to Know When a Relationship is Over

hi I'm Beth Patterson psychotherapist and grief counselor and we're going to talk about how to know when relationship is over it's it's a hard question and you really have to be honest with yourself one thing that could be helpful actually is taking out a piece of paper and writing out the pluses and minuses well what do I gain by staying in this relationship as opposed to what do I lose by staying in this relationship and really be honest with yourself about it and you might surprise yourself you might actually find that there's things about this person that you love that are really beneficial to you and and you decide to stay with them and to work on the relationship uh sometimes people end relationships too soon because relationships are hard they bring out the best and and the worst than us they bring out all of our vulnerabilities so I think taking a good honest appraisal will really help you see whether you should stay in this relationship or not if there work you actually you need to do on yourself to stay in the relationship on the other hand certainly if you're being abused um you probably should get out of the relationship and get some professional guidance along those lines if if need be um because you know it's it's not going to be helpful to you to be abused that's for sure so if you are being abused nine times out of 10 I would say yeah it's time to leave that relationship and also see you know just really take a really good honest look are you getting more out of it or not uh it's hard it's hard work to assess these things and you're really doing a self assessment more than anything else seeing what you are bringing to the relationship as well as what the other person is or is not bringing to the relationship and writing it down is a really really good way to um evaluate that and to be really honest I hope that advice has been helpful to you best of luck moving forward

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