How to Deal With Being Disowned

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People are disowned by their family members for various reasons. It could be because their family does not agree with their choice of a spouse, their associations, sexual orientation, religious beliefs or any other reason. Whatever the cause, being disowned can turn your life into an enduring trial. You need to find support and counseling to cushion the impact on you physically and emotionally.

Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to grieve. Grieving is important because if you allow emotions to build up, they will explode one day. Grieve for as long as you want until you feel relieved. Don't harm yourself, or anyone else.

Accept your situation, but don't condemn yourself as if you're the one who has a problem. It is your family that has a problem. You must also accept yourself the way you are. Look at the things that make you great. You're smart and gifted, that is why you can impact others positively.

Move to another area where you won't see or meet with your family and start rebuilding your life. Join a social club or a fraternal group where you can surround yourself with quality people. Choose people with good moral character you have a lot in common with. If you were disowned as a result of your career, for instance, don't associate with people who despise what you do.

Act normally when you're around people, instead of looking sorrowful. Don't tell everyone you meet that you have been disowned, either. Only share your story when you eventually come to know someone very well.

Seek counseling from a mental health expert. You might have a depression or post-traumatic stress disorder. Being disowned leaves you with a deep personal wound. You need counseling to walk through the pain. The negative things we experience in life leave us with physical and psychological after-effects that are prone to persist throughout our lives if not dealt with properly.