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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Through a Text Message

by Judy Kilpatrick

Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we don't have it anymore. Boyfriends certainly fall into this category. Whether you made the break or your boyfriend cut you loose, if you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, a carefully worded text message can be a good way to reconnect.

Peak His Curiosity

Wait at least three weeks after the breakup before texting your guy. Making contact too soon can make you look desperate. When you do text, the words you use can make all the difference in his response. Your message should crack the door open gently, reminding him that you are still around and that you want to be friendly. The goal is to allure, not beg or plead or make apologies or promises. For example: "Now that we've had time to adjust to being apart, I wanted you to know that I am still your friend and will always want the best for you." Use words that give him the idea that you are alright without him, but you like him.

Have an If-Then Plan

Your next text depends upon his response or lack thereof. If he doesn't text back, wait at least a week, and then send a message inquiring about a matter that you know is a concern to him. For instance, "I remembered that you had an important interview. Did it go well? I sure hope so." By asking a question, you are basically requiring a response from him. If he still doesn't answer, maybe it is too soon. If he does respond, then answer him back, but keep it casual until you get clear vibes that he wants to reconcile. Taking it slow is especially important if he is the one who broke up with you, as moving too fast can cause him to retreat.

About the Author

For Judy Kilpatrick, gardening is the best mental health therapy of all. Combining her interests in both of these fields, Kilpatrick is a professional flower grower and a practicing, licensed mental health therapist. A graduate of East Carolina University, Kilpatrick writes for national and regional publications.

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