If you are looking for ways to draw people in your social life or for business purposes, learn to become more genuine. People that are genuine are caring and are truly interested in what others have to say. They don’t merely go through the motions of a conversation. They talk to others in an honest manner by expressing their true feelings on a subject. Since a genuine person is comfortable and accepts herself, others feel comfortable being around her.
Act natural around others. Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be something you are not just for the sake of approval. Accept who you are, flaws and all.
Listen when others are speaking. Instead of feigning interest, listen attentively to what the other person is saying. When you take the time to listen to someone, he will feel comfortable around you.
Admit when you have made a serious mistake instead of blaming someone else. People are more forgiving when you admit that you have done something wrong. Be willing to laugh at yourself when you make a minor mistake.
Show appreciation. Tell someone that you appreciate him for what he said, what he is doing or what he has accomplished. Problems often rise in relationships when a partner feels under-appreciated and taken for granted.
Mean what you say. When someone asks for your opinion on a subject, be honest about the way you really feel. Avoid telling her something that you think she wants to hear. Saying what you are actually feeling minimizes the chances of miscommunication in personal relationships.
Compliment someone when you sincerely mean it. Avoid flattering a person just for the sake of gaining a future benefit.
Seek ways that you can help others. Genuine people are caring and look for ways, even small ones, to make others happier. Helping others makes you feel good inside. Others will pick up on your happiness and want to be a part of your life.
Avoid lying just to make friends. When you have established your genuine self, others will appreciate you for who you are.
Skip invitations to events that you won’t genuinely enjoy. For example, if your friends invite you to a basketball game but you find the sport boring, turn the invitation down in a polite way.
Participate in activities that you like doing. You will meet others that share your interests.
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