Mother-Child Bonding vs. Father-Child Bonding

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The way that mothers and fathers bond with their children is an important consideration in an era when both parents aren't always available. Growing up with just one parent has become a common experience. According to the 2016 US Census, more than a quarter of American kids live in single-parent households. Children are affected differently by bonds formed with their mother versus bonds formed with their father. Research over the past 30 years has identified unique benefits that bonding with each parent can have for children.

Bonding and Attachment

Bonding refers to the feelings of safety and trust that children form with parents and other significant people in their lives. It is often referred to as "attachment," and it is central to understanding how human beings grow and develop emotionally, mentally and socially. Your sensitive and appropriate response to your child's needs is thought to be the foundation of your child's personality and relationships with others.

Mother and Child Bonding

Research on bonding began in the 1960s, an era when mothers were seen as the primary caregivers. In fact, the earliest research on attachment focused exclusively on mothers. The goal in studying mother-bonding was to learn how it affected an infant's feelings of safety with others and confidence in exploring the world. In studies done in child-development labs, researchers found that the more secure the bond with the mother, the greater the feelings of safety and confidence. Recent research has looked at how mother and child bonding affects children's self-reliance, social competence, emotional stability and ability to nurture relationships with others.

Paternal Bonds

Fathers feel responsible to nurture children with financial support, child care and limit-setting. Though mothers also provide income, research suggests that a child's economic well-being is most often dependent on the income of father. Fathers have become more involved with care taking and setting limits for children as women have assumed more financial responsibilities.

Benefits of Mother and Child Bonding

A strong maternal bond helps children become more confident and competent at school. Children who are securely bonded to their mothers are more likely to be self-starters and require less prompting from their teachers. Secure bonds with mom allow children to cope more easily with change and have better social skills with peers. Researchers have found that children with secure mother-bonds demonstrate a better understanding of other children's emotions.

Benefits of Father and Child Bonding

Since father-bonding is tied to providing for children financially, that economic support is central to preventing childhood poverty and providing resources for kids to become academically and socially successful. It also enables kids to access community resources to grow their talents and expand their opportunities. The way fathers provide care and communicate feelings helps kids feel more satisfaction in life, and appropriate limit-setting contributes to academic success, fewer problems with delinquency and more social competence.