Take the direct approach by simply saying "no." While this approach to declining a friendship isn't for everyone, it can provide your potential friend with a clear answer. Avoid stepping around any explanation that you might use instead of a brief, simple decline of the offer of friendship. Using statements such as "maybe" or "I'm not sure" don't clarify that you are declining the offer of friendship. As a result, the person you are turning down may return again and again, believing that there is a measure of hope to be friends.

Be honest about the reason why you are declining the friendship. It isn't necessarily a bad thing to explain to someone honestly that you just don't have the time to work on being friends. In addition, if you don't feel like you and your potential friend have anything in common, making that statement may provide them with some clarity about who they choose as a potential friend. In declining a friendship honestly, it isn't necessary to be mean or demeaning. Keep in mind that the individual offering friendship is in an emotionally vulnerable position, so be polite in your response.

Stick with your decision once you've declined a friendship. Although declining a friendship may seem definitive to you, the person requesting friendship doesn't always see it that way. Instead, some individuals may return for a curtain call, offering or requesting friendship in a slightly different--or exactly the same--manner as they had previously. For those people, you may need to say "no" more than once, but stick to the same answer and the same explanation each time. Ideally, the person will understand that you mean what you say and will stop approaching you.

Don't feel responsible for the other person's happiness and well-being. While it's true that friendships provide health benefits, declining a friendship isn't a life-altering behavior. Even if the individual offering friendship appears emotional or particularly hurt by the decline, it isn't your responsibility to find them a more appropriate or willing person to be their friend. If you know of someone in your social circle who might be a better fit for the individual who's friendship you've declined, speak privately with that person and allow them the option to pursue the friendship.