This world is filled with people, and we are constantly interacting with some of those people every day. Positive interactions with others are important because they help us solidify relationships, cultivate networks, maintain employment, and better ourselves. This article is going to give you some tips on how to be positive in your interactions with others.
Smile! Smiles give people a sense of comfort and warmth. If you want to have positive interactions with others, it is important that they feel comfortable and cared for, so smile, smile, smile!
Think positive thoughts. No, people can't read your mind, but often they can sense if you are thinking negatively about them. So make a conscious effort to think of the positives only when talking to someone. For example, if you're talking to someone who won't let you get a word in edgewise, think about how great it is that they want to share their life with you. Don't dwell on the negative. Send good positive vibes.
Say positive things. Don't litter a conversation with criticisms and sarcastic remarks. Instead make positive comments, like: "Thanks for sharing," "You look fantastic!," or "I always enjoy talking with you." Make sure that the positive comments are sincere though. No one likes a fake.
Offer your "services" and follow through. If you have a friend who is having problems at school, offer to help them by offering an ear to listen to their rants or by tutoring them in a tough subject. If you have a co-worker who is struggling to meet a deadline, offer to do tasks for them that you can handle so that they can focus on what they need to. If you have a family member who is sick, offer to make them soup, drive them to the doctor, or just come visit. And then actually do it. I think you get the picture.
Go above and beyond. If you are comfortable enough where you can be physical with the other person, put a hand on their arm when you are comforting them, greet them and say goodbye with a hug and/or kiss, and for co-workers, treat each other to gentle, slow handshakes. Bring a box of doughnuts (or a fruit basket to keep it healthy) into the office in the morning. Buy or make your friend something with their favorite animal on it. Give your sister the coupons you found in the local paper. Write on people's Facebook walls just to tell them how much you appreciate them. The list goes on and on. Be creative and stay positive!
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- Work on incorporating positive thinking into every area of your life, and it will automatically improve your interactions with others.
- Don't let others' negativity get you down. Try to put a positive spin on even the most negative comments.
- If you do display negativity, apologize immediately.
- Don't hug, kiss, or even touch someone unless you know that they are okay with it. A lot of people need personal space in order to feel comfortable.
- Remember that all people are different. Don't be fake with anyone, but do adjust your behavior slightly depending on who you are talking to. A boss and a brother are two very different roles, plus they may have completely different personalities. Be flexible, and appreciate people's differences.
- Negative thoughts may still pop in your head. Try your best to replace them quickly with a positive thought.