As many as 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, says Anna Miller of the American Psychological Association. In an effort to avoid ending the marriage, some couples resort to a physical separation. Taking time apart can help combat tension, anger and frustration, while giving each partner time to decide what their ultimate goal is for the marriage. When you are ready to heal the wounds and get your husband back, you will need to present yourself well and put in serious work.
Wait until you are ready to put in an honest effort and work toward saving the marriage. Reuniting too early with your husband can lead to more frustration and may hinder any progress you've both made during the separation. Check in with yourself and decide if you are ready to face the challenges that led to your separation.
Reach out to your husband and ask if he is ready to start working toward a resolution. Share your hopes and goals for the future of the marriage and express a genuine interest in working together to end the separation.
Offer marital counseling as a safe, therapeutic environment to meet. A therapist can offer expert, unbiased help to build rapport, communication and develop problem-solving skills. The therapist can also act as a relationship referee while you work out the kinks that led to the separation.
Listen to your husband when he voices frustrations and concerns. Try to sympathize with your spouse, listen carefully, and be respectful with your words. Don't yell, name call or walk away from each other when you're disagreeing.
Share positive, loving feelings with your husband to let him know he is valued. Tell him what you have missed about him, what positive traits he brings to the relationship and what parts of the relationship work best. Apologize for anything hurtful you have done; accept responsibility for behaviors you need to address; and share which parts of the relationship you are willing to improve upon.
Enjoy a date together to start back on the path to romance. Emotional and physical intimacy are key to a long-term bond between people. Pick an activity you both like, set aside the serious topics, and focus on enjoying each other's company.
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