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How to Encourage Him to Fall in Love With You

by Elise Wile

German philosopher Max Muller once said, "A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and a man cannot live without love." While true, the thought that comes to your mind is that you'd like the man with whom you're enamored to not be able to live without your love, specifically. Fortunately, the secrets to love are simple -- although not always easy.

Bring Out His Best

Think about it -- you probably love being around the friend who encourages you to pursue your love of rock-climbing more than your friend who always seems to treat you as though you're a bit crazy because you enjoy dangling 1,000 feet above ground. The same is true for the man in your life. If you strive to bring out his best, he's likely to genuinely enjoy your company, and perhaps even fall in love. Help him to become the man he wants to be, advises personal change specialist Dr. Ali Binazir in a September 2011 article in the "Huffington Post." When he feels good being around you, he's more likely to stay around for the long haul.

Be Kind

The messages we receive about love in today's culture can encourage us to be inauthentic and even manipulative to get the life we think we want. Throw misleading ideas about perfection and game-playing out with the trash, and work on being a kind person who is available to the people she cares about. Doing so may take courage, but you'll be more likely to wind up with a man who is also kind, says psychotherapist Ken Page in a February 2013 article in "Psychology Today." Think about it -- if the man you want to fall in love with you is unresponsive to kind and generous actions, he probably isn't the person you want in your life anyway.

Have a Life

Lebanese poet Kahlil Gibran once wrote, "Let there be spaces in your togetherness." Allowing a guy room to breathe is essential if you want him to fall in love with you. Don't be inauthentic by ignoring his calls in an effort to generate intrigue, however. Instead, cultivate an interesting life that leaves you genuinely engaged so that when you do see the guy of your dreams, you have plenty to talk about and adventures to share.

Be Lovable

As difficult as it may be, take a personal inventory and ask yourself if you are bringing favorable qualities to the relationship. Generosity, kindness, faithfulness and positivity are all attributes that build another person up and make you a relaxing and fun person to be around. If you are struggling with selfishness, control issues or have difficulty regulating your emotions, it's a good idea to work on self-improvement before focusing on bringing a partner into your life. When you are able to fully love the people around you, you will attract love into your life.

About the Author

Elise Wile has been a writer since 2003. Holding a master's degree in curriculum and Instruction, she has written training materials for three school districts. Her expertise includes mentoring, serving at-risk students and corporate training.

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