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Signs He Only Sees Me as a Friend

by C. Giles

Your platonic relationship can become complicated if you develop a crush on your male friend. You may be so close that it feels as if you are already dating, only without the physical intimacy, suggests Rich Santos in the article, "9 Reasons It's Tough to Be Friends With Your Crush," for "Marie Claire." Before you take the brave step of sharing your feelings with your friend, try to work out if your feelings are reciprocated. If he doesn't think of you as a potential girlfriend, you may feel embarrassed and awkward, and it could affect the future of your friendship.

You Do All the Work

If you're always the one to make arrangements to get together, he may not be interested in you romantically. A man who wants to date you will be eager to see you as much as possible, says Evan Marc Katz in the article, "How to Tell If a Guy Likes You" for "YourTango." If you are doing all the work, he may not see you as anything more than a friend.

You Rarely Hear From Him

A male friend who is looking for romance may call you or text you frequently for no particular reason, simply because he is always thinking about you or wants to hear your voice. If your friend is happy to go weeks without chatting, or you are always the one to initiate contact, it's likely that he only sees you as a friend, suggests suggests Alex Matlock in the article, "9 Tell-Tale Signs He's Not Into You" for "YourTango."

You Get Lost in the Crowd

One-to-one time is important for getting to know someone romantically. If your male friend always turns up with a group of friends when you have arranged to meet, or only invites you out as part of a larger social gathering, he may not be thinking of you as a potential date, suggests Rich Santos in the article, "3 Ways to Tell if You Are More Than Friends," for "Marie Claire."

You're His Best Bud

Being treated like one of the guys can be a compliment -- this shows how much a man enjoys your company and values your friendship. However, it's not normal for a man to call a woman he is attracted to "buddy," "bro" or "dude." If he has an unfeminine nickname for you, he's probably not interested in dating you.

He's Into Another Woman

Some men like to confide in a female friend about their romantic conquests. If you are his chosen confidante, this is a big sign that he doesn't see you as more than a friend. He may ask you to set him up with one of your friends. He wouldn't do this if it was you he wanted to date.

Your Flirting Goes Unnoticed

Flirtatious behavior has no effect on your male friend. You may have pulled out all the stops: seductive eye contact, a plunging neckline, giggling at his jokes, coy smiles and physical contact at every opportunity. If he seems oblivious to even your most blatant flirting signs, it's because he's not interested in going there, says Santos. He doesn't think of you in that way. In fact, you could probably share a bed with him and he wouldn't lay a finger on you.

He Never Crosses the Line

If your male friend is interested in dating you, he may take advantage of every chance he gets to touch you. From brushing his leg against yours under the table, to touching your arm during conversation, this "accidental" physical contact reveals your friend's desire to get closer to you, says Marni Battista in the article, "5 Ways to Know If a Guy is Interested in You," for "YourTango." Eye contact can be another tell-tale sign -- if he holds your gaze for a couple of seconds longer than necessary, he may have romantic feelings for you. However, if he never does anything to give you the impression he sees you as more than a friend, chances are he's happy with a purely platonic relationship.

About the Author

C. Giles is a writer with an MA (Hons) in English literature and a post-graduate diploma in law. Her work has been published in several publications, both online and offline, including "The Herald," "The Big Issue" and "Daily Record."

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