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How to Deal With a Loud Roommate

by Anna Green

A loud roommate can create more than just annoyance. When you live with someone who does not respect your need for quiet, you may find yourself losing sleep and being unable to work, study or relax. Setting clear expectations and talking to your roommate about what noise levels you find acceptable -- and when -- can help you find a peaceful resolution. Address the issue as soon as possible, advises the Brown University Health Service Center.

Establish Ground Rules

When confronting your roommate, avoid using blaming statements, such as "You're so inconsiderate!" Instead, state your concerns in terms of how the behavior affects you and propose reaching an agreement on how to handle the situation. For instance, you might say, "I'm having trouble sleeping at night because I can hear your music. Do you think we could set up an arrangement on music for us both to follow?" When you make this arrangement, be specific. For example, set a designated quiet time for study and sleep and put it in writing so that you can make sure that you and your roommate are on the same page.

About the Author

Anna Green has been published in the "Journal of Counselor Education and Supervision" and has been featured regularly in "Counseling News and Notes," Keys Weekly newspapers, "Travel Host Magazine" and "Travel South." After earning degrees in political science and English, she attended law school, then earned her master's of science in mental health counseling. She is the founder of a nonprofit mental health group and personal coaching service.

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