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How to Deal With a Woman Sending Mixed Signals

by Carissa Lawrence

Whether you're just getting to know a woman or you've known her for a long time, it's hard to figure out what's going on inside her head. It's not uncommon for women to send mixed signals. According to Linda Young, psychologist and relationship coach, some women send mixed signals on purpose, while others don't even know they're doing it. Regardless of what type of signals a woman is sending you, at the end of the day, it's up to you to decide how you're going to respond.

Take the Lead

One way to deal with a woman sending mixed signals is to grab the reigns and move forward. Young suggests that some ladies send mixed signals because they're unsure about your feelings towards them and are worried about being rejected. If a woman is interested in you and you make attempts to move things forward, chances are she'll go along with you. On the other hand, if she's the type who just likes to flirt, your attempts at taking the next step will force her to tell you the truth about her feelings. Either way, taking action will give you a more clear idea of where she is.

Walk Away

If you're the type of guy who doesn't have time for nonsense, a simple solution to a woman sending mixed signals is to move on to someone else. While it may be that a woman sends mixed signals because she doesn't want to make things too easy for you -- some women enjoy playing hard to get -- it becomes clear after a certain point that she's just messing with you. If she's sending mixed signals from the beginning, decide how long you'll allow it to go on. After your specified period of time, if she isn't looking like she wants to take the relationship further, say your goodbyes.

Play the Game

There's no reason you can't send mixed signals back to a woman who seems to go from hot to cold and back again, according to the experts at Lovepanky, a website dedicated to matters of dating and relationships. If you notice her giving you sideways glances and waiting for a response, don't give her one. When she calls or texts after giving you the cold shoulder for three days, don't answer or text back. Playing the game probably won't get you any results, but at the very least it will send the message that she's not the only one who can send mixed signals. If she actually likes you, she may straighten up and fly right. If she doesn't like you and was just having fun flirting, she'll probably stop. In either case, at least you'll know where you stand.

Get the Inside Scoop

It's no secret that girls talk to each other about everything. If the woman you're into is sending mixed signals, do a little investigating. Getting information will be much easier if you and your lady-friend have mutual friends that know about the situation. If you don't happen to share close friends, try to talk to one of her friends that you've already met. Approaching one of her friends that you don't know might not make the best impression, since there's a good chance that the friend is going to tell her that you asked.

About the Author

Based in Gainesville, Carissa Lawrence is an experienced teacher who has been writing education related articles since 2013. Lawrence holds a master's degree in early childhood education from the University of Florida.

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