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How to Tell When a Guy Just Wants You as a Rebound

by Kimberly Liby

It's sometimes hard to tell whether a guy just wants you as a rebound until it's too late. Because rebound relationships typically don't last very long, the key is to find out what the guy's intentions are before you invest too much time in him. There are a few telltale signs that a guy wants you as a rebound. Just make sure you listen and observe.

He Talks About His Ex

If you're on a date with a guy and every topic of conversation tends to revert back to his ex, he's probably looking for a rebound. Clinical psychologist Mary C. Lamia explains in her article "'Rebound' Relationships" for "Psychology Today" that guys on the rebound tend to be emotionally unavailable after a recent breakup. A guy who talks about his ex on a date hasn't completely moved on yet and may have unresolved issues. Instead, he might start dating too soon out of fear of being without a partner or as a distraction from his feelings.

Sex Is on His Mind

He compliments you but uses overtly sexual overtones that seem inappropriate for a first date or even a third date. A gentleman compliments a lady by telling her how "beautiful" she looks, not how "sexy" she looks. If the guy you're dating stares at your chest or tells you how aroused you're making him, he only has one thing on his mind. Some guys on the rebound believe that jumping in the sack is the quickest way to move on, so steer clear of these guys.

He's Not Paying Attention

If you're on a date with a guy and an attractive waitress walks by and he's checking her out more than he's listening or talking to you, he's not invested in the conversation. He's obviously not looking for a serious relationship; he's looking for a good time anywhere he can get it. If the guy isn't paying attention to you, he's not showing you respect, and he certainly isn't giving you the attention you deserve.

He's Hasty

If you get the feeling that the guy you're dating wants to rush through the date and go back to his place -- or just have the date at his place -- he could be on the rebound. Guys who make a move on the first date are doing so hastily. Guys who are looking for a serious relationship don't rush in; they take their time and get to know you first. Ultimately, you decide who's right for you; just make sure you aren't wasting your time with the wrong guy.

About the Author

Kimberly Liby has been a content writer and editor since 2006, with articles in "944" magazine. She has written on a range of topics including cooking, health, current events, philosophy, psychology, career, education, writing and editing. Liby holds a Bachelor of Arts in English literature with a writing minor from Arizona State University, and a Master of Science in psychology from the University of Phoenix.

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