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10 Reasons to Get Out of a Bad Relationship

by Anthony Oster

A bad relationship can be frustrating, stifling and smothering. Whether your relationship has hindered your self-esteem, ruined your social life or you feel as if you are wasting time on the wrong person, getting out of the relationship may be in your best interest. While there are numerous reasons to get out of such a relationship, each reason shares a common theme: your happiness and well-being.

You're Unhappy

No relationship is perfect and all relationships will have good times and bad. Even if you don't have a specific reason for being unhappy, unhappiness in your relationship may be a sign that it is time to get out. As you distance yourself from the relationship, you may begin to understand why the relationship was bad for you.

Single and Happy is Better

The fear of being single keeps many unhappy couples together, but the truth is, if single you can take the time to focus on your own interests, you don't have to answer to anyone about wanting to have a night out with your friends and that spur of the moment trip out of town depends only on how quickly you can pack a bag.

Addicted to a Bad Relationship

Relationships can become addicting for several reasons, from sharing a home to having children. Addicting relationships may result in painful withdrawals when you think about leaving, preventing you from attempting to leave. Break the cycle of an addicting relationship to begin to focus on yourself, your needs and your happiness.

You're Not Getting Any Younger

Every day you spend in a bad relationship is one you are not spending on yourself or in a good relationship. Whether you're 25 or 55, your time is too precious to waste.

Infidelity

If you're in a relationship with someone who does not respect the boundaries of your relationship while you're dating, he is less likely to uphold the sanctity of your relationship as you grow older or get married.

Substance Abuse

Drug and alcohol abuse can pose a strain on your relationship and may lead to other issues such as run-ins with the law or physical abuse. Substance abuse can cause irreparable damage to your relationship that may not be resolved until your partner recovers. If your partner has no interest in getting sober or has not had success in trying, it may be a sign to leave.

For Your Mental Health

Bad relationships can be worrisome and stress-inducing, leaving you anxiety-ridden and depressed. Take control of your mental health by getting out of your bad relationship.

Relationship Boredom

Your relationship may have started off strong, including engaging conversation, thrilling vacations and the overwhelming feeling of love and happiness. After your relationship settles, boredom may cause you to drift apart or seek excitement outside of the relationship.

Your Safety Depends on It

Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical violence, harassment, controlling behavior or emotional abuse. Your personal safety and well-being are reason enough to get out of this kind of bad relationship. If you are concerned for your safety or the safety for your children, contact your local law enforcement, domestic violence shelter or the National Domestic Violence hotline for assistance.

He's Just Not The One

Bad relationships don't necessarily mean constant arguing or battles of wills. The guy you are dating may look great on paper, but that does not always mean he is the right one for you. If he's not the one, he's standing in your way of finding someone who can fulfill your desires.

About the Author

Anthony Oster is a licensed professional counselor who earned his Master of Science in counseling psychology at the University of Southern Mississippi. He has served as a writer and lead video editor for a small, South Louisiana-based video production company since 2007. Oster is the co-owner of a professional photography business and advises the owner on hardware and software acquisitions for the company.

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