What Makes Men Happy in Relationships?

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A relationship is a two-way street. In many relationships, both individuals attempt to keep the other happy. Just like women, men are complex creatures. And while there are plenty of things that a woman can do to please a man or show him that she values him, in the end each man must recognize his own source of happiness.


Outside of the romantic relationship, both parties have additional interpersonal relationships. A man often confides in—and makes decisions with—his closest friends. His partner often becomes friends with his friends, too. But, she needs to respect the relationship between her man and his friends. Kate White, editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan, said in a guest appearance on The Early Show, “Women frequently go overboard. And, sometimes that can create a little jealousy.” To keep from upsetting the balance between a man and his buddies, a woman must allow them their “guys-only” time.


Many men enjoy watching and participating in sporting events. According to "Men’s Health," a woman should not chatter away during a sporting event. “When the game is on, we will pay attention to you if you're nice about it,” notes the magazine. Of course, not all men are into sports, and not all men are as dogmatic about their interests. But in general, a woman needs to respect a man's area of interest. In order to be happy in a relationship, a man must have his space and “alone time,” too.


Simple gestures can be a way to a man’s heart. Recognize and appreciate even routine things, like when a man takes out the garbage. Spontaneous hugs and kisses, or love notes in his lunch, can help maintain a spark. Even if he doesn’t say it, he appreciates physical proximity—and not just sex.


Maintaining a relationship over time can be challenging. But open lines of communication, mutual respect and friendship, and sustaining a healthy sex life can help relationships endure.


According to Medline Plus, happy marriages can lead to a physically healthy life. In particular, a happy marriage might reduce a man's chance of stroke. An Israeli study noted that, “Single or unhappily married men seem to run a greater risk of dying from a stroke than those with good marriages.” Knowing that happiness can keep men—and women—healthy makes it even more important for each partner to go the extra mile.

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