If your husband left you, you may be reeling in pain, anger and even shock. This type of loss is devastating and life-changing. In fact, you may not believe that you can survive it. This kind of thinking is dangerous and can lead to depression. You need to realize something: You are not alone. Many women have overcome the loss of a husband leaving, and you will too. You just need to be patient with yourself and find healthy ways to overcome your pain.
Get rid of reminders of your husband. Look around your house. You probably have pictures of your husband. Take them down and store them in the closet out of sight. You can also throw them out if you never want to see them again or give them to a relative. Don't forget to get rid of your husband's clothes or other items he has left in the house. These painful reminders will only cause you to feel sad and hurt.
Release the emotions inside of you. You may be overwhelmingly sad at times and angry at other times. Give yourself permission to feel these emotions. Have a long cry, and if you need to yell, do that as well. You can also write your feelings in a journal.
Speak to friends and family members. It's OK to ask for help or admit you are having a difficult time. Let them comfort you. You need to know there are people that care for you.
Focus on the bad qualities of your husband. Believe it or not, this helps you to get over your husband. Think of ways that he irritated you or made you feel bad. Perhaps he never called you when he was running late or was never affectionate. Write these things down and refer to them when you start to miss him.
Start exercising. Perhaps you have never been active. Well, this is the time to turn over a new leaf. Working out does more than get you in shape. You also feel a little better emotionally, because exercise increases endorphins, which are hormones that help your mood. You can start with something simple like taking walks. You may want to join a gym eventually.
Love yourself. The breakup has left you devastated, and that's to be expected, but you can't wallow in the pain forever. Say the words, "I love you" to yourself. Tell yourself you are worthy of love. Tell yourself you are a good person. Say "I love you" many times a day. Eventually, you will stop blaming yourself for your husband leaving and realize that you are a wonderful person worthy of love.
- MentalHelp.net; My Husband Has Left Me for Another Woman. How Do I Let Go?; January 6, 2009
- "Psychology Today"; How to Want to Get Over a Breakup; Jen Kim; May 23, 2011
- WebMD: My Husband Left Me. Will I Ever Get Over It?
- Oprah.com; The Kung Fu Secret to Getting Over a Bad Breakup; Tracy McMillan; March 23, 2011
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