Having an active Christian faith does not reduce the amount of fun you can have in a dating or marriage relationship. Being in a relationship with someone who shares your faith and values opens the door to various fun Christian, as well as secular, activities. Having fun is important to the health of your relationship, according to therapist Dr. Michelle Gannon in an article, “Importance of Fun,” on her website.
Fun Strengthens Relationships
Playful, fun activities strengthen a relationship, according to Naomi Brower with Utah State University in “Have Fun! The Importance of Play in Couple Relationships.” Ask your partner to make a list of what she considers fun, and you make one as well. Compare the lists and find activities you both agree are fun and that are in keeping with your Christian faith. Join your church’s sports team and play together with other members of your church. Take a road trip and visit places you haven’t been together. To create some spontaneity, put each item you agree is fun on a slip of paper and place them in a box of jar. Pull one out each week and find time to do it together.
Increase the fun you have by doing new and unusual things together, suggests Arthur Aron, a professor of social psychology, in a New York Times article entitled, “Rejuvenating Date Night for Long Married Couples.” Aron recommends that you take a class together, visit a new restaurant together or visit an amusement park. Check your church for classes that appeal to both of you. Offer to help with children’s church one Sunday a month or lead the kids in games that challenge you and them.
Brower recommends that you schedule time on the calendar for fun. Make a regular date night and pull ideas from books such as “52 Dates for You and Your Mate” by David and Claudia Arp, “1001 Ways to be Romantic” by Gregory J. P. Godek or “Family Fun Times: Activities That Bind Marriages, Build Families, and Develop Christian Leaders” by Wayne Rickerson. If you can’t go out, schedule a night for you to play games together, picnic on a blanket in front of the sofa or cuddle while you listen to your favorite Christian musicians or comedians.
Conflict can put a damper on your fun, so pledge together to avoid it during the time you allot for dates and fun, counsels Gannon. You might start your time with prayer, or pray together if conflict comes up during your fun time. Agree to treat each other according to the Golden Rule or by Ephesians 5:28-29, where husbands are told to love their wives as they love themselves.
- 52 Dates for You and Your Mate; David and Claudia Arp
- 1001 Ways to be Romantic; Gregory J. P. Godek
- Family Fun Times: Activities That Bind Marriages, Build Families, and Develop Christian Leaders; Wayne Rickerson
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