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How to Go From Flirting in Class to Dating

by Zora Hughes, studioD

That boring psych class is a lot more interesting when you're crushing on a fellow classmate. Perhaps you've managed to snag a seat next to your crush and have even initiated a little flirting, with lots of smiles, light touches and banter. However, if you only see your crush in class, you could end up with a fun and flirty friendship that doesn't go beyond the classroom. If you want to move things from flirting to dating your classmate crush, you have to initiate opportunities to take things to the next level.

Strike up a conversation with your crush during class that shows your interest in him. For example, when you get a chance, ask your crush about the dog tags he wears around his neck, or tease him a little about his favorite team losing a game. Show a genuine interest in what he says, by using direct eye contact and smiling.

Partner with your crush on a class project. As soon as your teacher or professor tells you to find a partner, ask him to partner with you before anyone else can. You could say something like, "Hey, you want to partner up?" This will give you an excuse to hang out with him one on one and get to know him a little better.

Get the digits. If you are going to be working on a class project together, you have the perfect excuse to exchange phone numbers. You could also suggest exchanging numbers to set up a study date or compare notes.

Flirt through texting. Once you've got the phone number, casually flirt through texts, perhaps mentioning your teacher's lame attempt at a joke or ask how studying is going. The right text, sent when you and your crush are getting to know one another, can pique his interest in you, suggests Olivia Baniuszewicz, co-author of "Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart."

Ask your crush out in a casual way. Wait to get him alone and casually bring up hanging out together. You could ask him to go see a band with you that you both like or hit up that hip new burger spot to see what all the fuss is about. That way, it doesn't feel like a high-pressure date situation but more like two acquaintances getting to know each other. If he says yes, it's a good sign that your casual date could turn into something more.

Don't be discouraged if your crush turns you down the first time you ask him out. He may just not have the time. However, if you ask again another time and he turns you down, take it as a sign that he is not interested in more than casual classroom flirting. If he is, he will ask you out.


  • Have a friend help you practice asking your crush out if you are nervous. Your friend can point out things you need to work on, like having more confidence when you ask, or giving body language clues that you are interested.

About the Author

Based in Los Angeles, Zora Hughes has been writing travel, parenting, cooking and relationship articles since 2010. Her work includes writing city profiles for Groupon. She also writes screenplays and won the S. Randolph Playwriting Award in 2004. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in television writing/producing and a Master of Arts Management in entertainment media management, both from Columbia College.

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