Conflict is a normal part of a healthy relationship. Two people simply are not going to agree on everything all of the time and it is likely that you and your boyfriend will both do things that upset the other and cause hurt feelings. However, if you want to build a strong and successful relationship you will need to learn how to thoroughly accept your boyfriend's apologies instead of constantly bringing up previous arguments and never letting go of the past.
Listen closely to the apology your boyfriend gives you. Make sure you understand exactly what he is apologizing for. For example, you will want to ensure your boyfriend is apologizing for the behavior that upset you. Make sure that his apology is sincere and that he truly wants to make things better.
Consider how you would feel if you were in your boyfriend's position. Think about whether or not you would feel as though you deserved forgiveness. Remember that hurting others can sometimes cause as much pain as being the person who was hurt.
Communicate with your partner about anything you are feeling concerned about after his apology has been given. If you still need more time to get over the situation don't be afraid to let him know. Speak to your boyfriend calmly and with respect so he truly listens to you and considers your feelings.
Inform him of how much his apology means to you. Let him know that finding a boyfriend who knows how to say he is sorry when he makes a mistakes is something that is very special to you. Share a simple smile or hug with him after he takes the time to apologize.
Forgive him when you are ready. Don't jump into forgiving your boyfriend just because he came up with the perfect apology. Only when you are feeling completely satisfied about the situation should you forgive your partner. Otherwise, you may end up fighting about the same thing at a later date.
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