Do you want to know how to get what you want in bed without emasculating your man?
Well, you can. You can be the best lover any man has ever had and you can have the best sex you ever had.
As a woman, you are more than expected to have, and to explore your desires.
You cannot just expect to have the big "O" if you're not putting in your fair share of the effort.
There is that chemistry thing and some people ooze sexuality. When it comes to sexual attraction, it's either there or it's not. Some people can just make eye contact and know they are going to have great toe curling sex. If the sexual attraction is not there, don't even bother, because you will both be disappointed.
Even if the sexual attraction is there, sometimes he won't be at his best, especially if this is the first time you have had sex with him. Don't despair. If the first time isn't mind blowing for you, it probably wasn't for him either, so get over yourself and try again.
Tell him when he is doing something you like. Act as though he is glorious in bed and he will improve. Men like to be good at things, and even more when that thing is sex. Let your man know how much you enjoy sex, and how much you Really Love Sex with him. Be excited about his body and tell him that you are.
Of course you can speak up and tell him to kiss your neck, or whatever it is you want. You can be direct. At the same time, it's important in a committed relationship to be flexible and allow for his sexual happiness too, but you never have to do anything you find immoral or just gross.
A committed long-term relationship requires you to be more open to his requests, but flings don't require that kind of deliberation.
You can initiate sex, but it must be sophisticated and lady like. A lady's elegance is sexy but very un-sexy is "let's get it on". Seduction is an art to the elegant woman.
Allow yourself to be wild and free. Forget about what may be a minor embarrassment. If you're in a committed, long-term relationship, you'll have plenty of time to learn about each other and work out any sexual awkwardness. That's why people say that sex gets better with time.