How to Tell Your Girlfriend You Love Her Without Saying "I Love You"

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Perhaps, you're too shy to say the words, "I love you" to your girlfriend. Or, maybe you think it's too soon to say them or are unsure if she feels the same way about you. Regardless of why you don't want to come right out and express your feelings, there are other ways to let your girlfriend know what's in your heart and that she's special to you.

Commit it to Paper

A love letter provides the perfect opportunity to communicate your feelings to your girlfriend without having to utter a single word. Resist the temptation to quote other writers and use your own words, according to an article. Sit down, take your time and focus on making your girlfriend feel special. Reminisce about happy or romantic moments you shared during your relationship and let this inspire the words on the page. Let her know that you notice the little things that she does and how they warm your heart. For example, you can say something like, "I noticed you crying during a sad movie last weekend. I love how sensitive you are." Or, if you have the heart and soul of a poet, you might try composing a love poem to your girlfriend. Again, keep the words heartfelt and your own. While you can make it lighthearted, don't make it too silly with lots of rhyming words if you want to convey your true feelings.

Nurture Your Relationship

The old adage, "Actions speak louder than words" is never truer than when it comes to affairs of the heart. It is easy to say "I love you" without really meaning it. Demonstrating your love through your behavior takes more effort. Think about what being in love means to you -- and how you want the person you love to treat you. This is how you should treat your girlfriend. Make plenty of time for her in your life. Consider how your decisions affect her happiness and well-being. Plan regular dates that involve doing things that you both enjoy -- and try new, interesting activities together. In other words, make memories together. One of the keys to long-term relationship success is committing to shared activities, according to life coach Preston Ni in a Psychology Today article.

Show Affection

Physical affection is important in a romantic relationship. Be tactile with your girlfriend regularly. Hold her hand when you're out in public. Grab her for a hug, just because you love her. Snuggle up on the sofa while watching television. Cuddle and kiss before going to sleep -- and not only when you have sex on your mind. Your affection and warmth will make your girlfriend feel truly appreciated and loved.

Surprise Her

A thoughtful, surprise gesture will tell your girlfriend how special she is to you. Make a CD or playlist of love songs. Include songs that mean something to the both of you -- such as the song you heard the first time you kissed or songs by your girlfriend's favorite bands. Slip the CD into her purse or briefcase for her to discover by chance. You can also surprise her by cooking her favorite meal and having it ready for her when she gets home from work. Create a romantic setting for your meal with a pretty tablecloth, candles and chilled wine or champagne. Draw her a candlelit bath with scented oils or bubbles and give her a glass of champagne to sip while she soaks in the tub. These small romantic gestures don't require a great deal of effort, but will convey your feelings.