How to Stop Being So Grumpy

by K. Nola Mokeyane
Grumpiness can occur for a number of reasons, including stress, hardships and hunger.

Grumpiness can occur for a number of reasons, including stress, hardships and hunger.

When life repeatedly deals difficult blows, it’s logical that some people become a little grumpy as a result. You may have noticed that your trademark smile has turned into a recurring combination of furrowed brows and pursed lips, and people are annoying – more so than usual. While it’s easier said than done, take your attention away from your challenges to avoid being in a state of perpetual grumpiness.

Listen to Music

When you find yourself feeling grumpy, turn on some music to elevate your mood to a more positive state. Listening to sounds that are uplifting or calming will help you feel better and distract your thoughts away from what is bothering you. Soothing instrumentals – especially those with the sounds of nature playing softly in the background – can help you relax and assist with recharging you emotionally and psychologically. Be mindful of the lyrics played in songs, too, and opt to listen to music with lyrics that are empowering and optimistic.


Physical exercise is a great mood enhancer as it releases endorphins within the brain that act as “feel good” chemicals. Licensed clinical social worker Annabella Hagan, writing for “Psych Central” states that while it can be difficult to engage in exercise when you are feeling down, it is the best activity for you if you want to feel better. Take a walk through your neighborhood – especially if the sun’s out as this also helps to enhance your mood – for at least 10 to 20 minutes. If you’re feeling a little more ambitious, take a jog through your neighborhood or your favorite your favorite park. Hiking, cycling or even doing yoga in your living room will help you abandon that grumpy mood.


“Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict,” says It relaxes your body, boosts your immune system and also releases endorphins, the website adds. Whenever you are feeling grumpy, turn on a funny movie or treat yourself to a local comedy show. Visit websites that show videos of bloopers or kids saying and doing funny things. Call a friend who generally makes you laugh and ask her to entertain you for several minutes while you’re in need of a pick-me-up. Utilize as many funny resources as you can to help you shed the grumpy and soak in some humor.

Show Gratitude

If you stay mired in thoughts of lack and all of the things that are going wrong in your life, you are likely to generate a negative emotional state, such as grumpiness. Professional coach Helen Kosinski suggests saying “Thank You” and showing appreciation to others to generate feelings of gratitude. You can also write a gratitude list to help you recall the positive things that you have going on in your life. Begin each sentence within your gratitude list with “I am thankful for…” and be sure to only accentuate the positive. Refrain from writing statements such as “I’m thankful that no one’s annoyed me today,” instead phrasing this thought as “I am thankful that I maintained a good attitude today” to keep your mood uplifted.

About the Author

K. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom. Nola enjoys writing about health, wellness and spirituality. She is a member of the Atlanta Writer's Club.

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