Romance 101: How to Show Her You Love Her

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In every relationship, it's important to make sure that special someone knows how much you love her. While it's always nice to hear those words, expressing your love through actions can speak volumes where words can't. Be creative -- and personal -- when coming up with romantic ways to show the lady in your life that you love her. Romance isn't about how much money you spend. It's about showing your true feelings and expressing what's in your heart.

Surprise Her

Nothing says “I love you” like doing something unexpected for your loved one. Surprising your significant other with something that helps her or makes her life a little easier lets her know that you really care, says John Grohol, Psy. D., in the PsychCentral article “6 Ways to Show You Care.” The surprise doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive. For example, offer to take out the trash when it's her turn, cook breakfast or dinner or drop a special lunch off for her at school or work. Simple actions can send powerful messages, especially when you know your sweetheart is having a rough day.

Let Her Be Right

Sometimes, proving your love is more important than proving that you know everything. Many couples find themselves arguing, which can cause problems in any relationship. To show your partner that you truly love her, pick your battles and stop arguing so much, says Grohol. You can even give her a “You're Right Day,” where you loosen the reigns and let all of your usual arguments go, suggests lifestyle expert and author Abiola Abrams in the “Gurl” article “10 Easy and Super Cheap Ways to Show Love.” On top of backing down from arguments, apologizing often -- even if you're not wrong -- is another way to show your love.

Give Her A Special Gift

Giving gifts to your significant other makes her feel special while showing how much you love her. When choosing gifts for her, choose items that let her know you've been paying attention. For example, find something that she said she has always wanted but could never find, suggests Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. in the Psychology Today article “10 Ways to Say 'I Love You' Without the Words.” You can also give her gifts that commemorate special moments or beloved memories, such as a frame containing a picture of the two of you along with a ticket from the first concert, play or other event you went to together.

Send a Message of Love

In today's age of technology, it's easy to send a text message, write an email or make a Facebook post telling your lady that you love her. Writing an old-fashioned handwritten love letter is a romantic way to show how much you care, according to Abrams, who suggests rolling up your love letter and tying it with an interesting piece of string or ribbon to make it extra romantic. If you're not much of a writer, you can also write simple messages or romantic quotes and sneak them into her coat pocket or purse.