Codependent behavior is when a person is overly focused on another person or on her relationship with another person. Codependent people often feel responsible for other people and have low self-worth. Codependency is harmful if it prevents a person from taking care of herself. It is possible to recover from this type of behavior with practice and with help from others.
Stop preaching to the other person about what is right or wrong for him. Stop nagging to the other person about what he should do with his life. You cannot control and manage others. It is imperative that you cease to intervene, help, offer advice, or attempt to make things better or to try to fix other people's problems. Whether right or wrong, you must allow the other person to make his own decisions and live his own life. Allow him to take ownership of his own mistakes, future, dismay, issues and personal growth.
Practice becoming selfish and putting yourself first. A grown-up is capable of attending to her own wishes before assisting anyone else. Be sure you fulfill your basic requirements before you devote your time, effort, cash and additional resources to others. Ensure your personal needs are met, such as sleep, food, serenity, and any other priority you may have.
Seek some assistance. It's crucial to have a good therapist or group when recovering from codependent behavior, since you need other people to mirror your codependent mindset so you can finally confront your problems. Call a large clinic, or ask one of your friends for therapist recommendations. You can get good quality counseling for a low cost at a therapy clinic where therapists go for more advanced certification.