Non-Verbal Communication: Eye Contact


0:02 Okay, now we're ready to move on to the eyes. And the first thing I want to talk about is

0:09 eye contact. An eye contact is so important in interpersonal relationships. In fact, if

0:17 someone is making more than sixty percent eye contact with you in a conversation, that

0:24 means they're more interested in you than what you're saying. That's a little tip for

0:29 you. Eye contact does a number of things. One, it secures the attention of the person

0:37 that you're talking to or for the person whose talking to you. It also signals the nature

0:44 of the relationship. Levels of intimacy have a whole lot to do with eye contact and comfort.

0:52 If I'm very comfortable with you, I have no problem making eye contact with you. However,

0:58 maybe you're my superior and you make me a little nervous, so, I don't make quite as

1:04 much eye contact with you. I can look away at times. It also shows interests. I'm interested

1:11 in you. I want to look at you. I want to understand what you're saying rather than, "Hey, look

1:16 at that girl. Hey, I wonder what they're doing. Hey, I'm listening". And you're constantly

1:21 looking away. "I'm not really interested". It also can regulate the conversation. You're

1:26 talking, I'm looking, I'm listening. "I'm looking down now because I disagree and I

1:32 want to say something". So eye contact is very important. Now let's talk about eye avoidance.