Hair extensions are often treated with chemicals to make them stronger and more durable. As a result, they can be dry and tough to the touch, not soft or silky. However, you can make them softer, shinier---the kind of hair you can run your fingers through---by using both homemade and store-bought hair conditioners. You can apply these remedies both before and after the extensions have been placed in your hair; the conditioning treatments will work in both cases.
Soak your hair extensions in warm water for 30 minutes to an hour. The warm water will soften the strands, making them easier to style.
Make a hot oil treatment using olive oil and avocado oil. Combine a few teaspoons of the oils, then place in a glass jar or cup. Place the cup in a hot water bath to heat the oils. Wet the extensions and massage a hot oil treatment into them. Leave the treatment in the extensions for about 30 minutes then rinse them out with warm water.
Use a deep conditioning treatment to soften the hair extensions. Apply the conditioner to slightly dampened extensions, leave it in for about 10 minutes then rinse off.
Make a deep conditioning mask with avocado and yogurt, and apply it to the hair extensions. Mash up a ripe avocado and mix it in with 2 tbsp. yogurt, blending well. Apply the mask all over the hair extensions, leave it in for about 15 minutes. Remove the mask and dump out into a trash receptacle then rinse out the extensions with shampoo.
Apply a mixture of honey and olive oil to soften the hair extensions. You will need about 2 tbsp. honey and olive oil. Mix them together in a plastic bowl then apply to the hair extensions. Massage it in to really make the extensions soft, then rinse them out with warm water.